Would you agree confidence building is a big part of being an entrepreneur? How many of you would agree that it’s easier to succeed when you have a lot of self confidence? So as a coach it’s really important that I impart confidence to my clients.
How To Gain Confidence
A good example is debt. That is one of the most disempowering things you can do to yourself is be in debt. Basically you lose your choices. Somebody else has control rather than you.
Being empowered is about you being in charge. So having confidence is empowering. Finding ways to build confidence is an important thing. One of the great ways which I’m going to teach you now is an important principle.
Imagine last year that your income was 60k. Lets say your goal this year is 100k. That’s a normal goal for someone that is somewhat ambitious. So imagine at the end of the year you didn’t quite hit the 100k mark but you earned 80k. Let me ask you is that a good thing or a bad thing? Well, here’s the deal. It really depends on how you look at it.
One way to look at it is to say I increased my income by 20 thousand dollars or 33% which is a pretty good increase for the year. If you look at it that way how do you feel about your year? Most of you are going to say pretty good.
Unfortunately most people that are self employed are especially bad at this and tend to do the opposite. They beat themselves up because they fell short of their goal. What happens when you do this to yourself? Your confidence goes down. So the answer is it depends how you look at it.
How To Increase Self Confidence
You need to celebrate your progress. Lets take hiking for example. Lets say you go on vacation to New Hampshire and decide to hike up Mount Washington with a few friends. It’s kind of a drizzly and rainy afternoon. You get to the top and it starts to get dark and it starts to rain and you say lets get out of here. You turn to go home and after a half hour you realize you’re lost.
You finally realize you’re not going to get out of there so you’re going to hunker down for the night. Unfortunately it’s that time of year where it can get cold enough to get hypothermia and possibly not make it through the night if you don’t have a fire. Only problem you have ONE match.
So what are you going to do? Are you going to pile a bunch of wet logs on top of one of another and stick that match under them? What are you going to do?
Well, you’re going to want to find really small really dry pieces of wood. You’re going to look under the logs for dry pieces. You’re going to find little tiny twigs and build a little teepee. Then you’re going to put that one match under those dry tiny twigs so it starts to smoke then poof. Fire!!!
Then what are you going to do? Are you going to put a bunch of wet logs on top of it? No, of course not. You’re going to put more dry tiny twigs to build up the fire. You’re going to keep building that up for maybe 5 or 10 minutes until you can put slightly bigger twigs on top. You’re going to be very careful as you nurture and feed the fire.
After a while you can start putting bigger pieces that are a bit wet. Then the heat will dry them out then they will burn. So now you know you’re actually going to be safe cause there’s lots of wood out there. After maybe an hour or so, you can start putting big wet logs on top and they will burn. In the beginning it would of just gone out.
Confidence Building Exercises
I want to say the same about you building momentum and confidence in your business. Start small with small successes. Celebrate the progress. Celebrate over and over again. Don’t go to far to fast. Some people can handle those big catastrophes but most people really get down on themselves, shrink in and don’t want to play anymore.
So celebrate all your small successes. Every night when you go to bed notice three successes you had.
It’s important that you’re constantly celebrating all of your successes. That’s how you build your confidence and start to believe in yourself. After a while, just like that fire, you become unstoppable.
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